Have you ever found it difficult to regain your emotional freedom long after the end of a relationship, or a painful incident? Do you find that you feel especially drained after interacting with certain people? Have you ever sensed the presence of a loved one even though they were miles away? These are all examples of experiences involving energetic cords. This article explores what they are, and provides four very effective ways they can be used to directly influence the course of a relationship.

What are cords?

An energetic cord is a structure through which energy and information are exchanged. When we interact with others, these attachments are created between both parties, especially when the interaction is emotionally charged, or the relationship is long term. They operate regardless of distance and can persist long after a relationship has ended. When the energy flowing through a cord is positive and balanced a relationship is probably healthy; however when it is only flowing in one direction, or what is going through it is negative, the result is emotional turmoil. As these cords can play such a significant role in our lives for better or worse, learning how to work with them directly puts us a step ahead of the game. One of the most important things to consider when doing this work is that intent is much more important than technique. Don’t worry about doing these exercises “right”, having a hard time visualizing, or spend time worrying about whether what you did was effective. Simply holding the strong, focused intent that the cord will be affected in the way you’re shooting for and your efforts will be effective regardless of how you go about it. The techniques here should be considered a jumping off point for experimenting and developing your own style of going about things. Before performing any of these actions on a cord I recommend getting into a relaxed, focused state. If you know how to meditate, do so; otherwise anything you can do to relax and quiet your mind is fine.

Cutting

This is probably the most commonly known way to address an unhealthy attachment. Cords should be cut in cases where any further contact with the other person, on any level, would be unhealthy. Simply see and feel yourself holding the cord mentally, and then forming whatever cutting tool is most comfortable for you to work with – a knife, a sword, or even a pair of scissors. I also burn my end of the connection to cauterize it, as a way of reaffirming that I don’t want the connection to reform. However, you may find it necessary to do this exercise more than once, especially if you still have to interact with the person, or find it difficult to stop thinking about them (read: giving them more of your energy). In my experience this has been a powerful technique for making it much easier to move on after the end of a difficult relationship. In one such instance, nearly a year after a relationship had ended and there had been no further contact, I suddenly found myself getting freshly upset and resentful over some things that had happened as if they were recent, even though I previously thought I had been over it for months. So, I cut cords with this person, and the results were almost immediate. The emotional impact of those events vanished literally overnight, and I was finally in a position to wish this person well and move on once and for all.

Besides unhealthy relationships, situational “threads” can form in any instance where we gave away our personal power, i.e. when someone takes advantage of or otherwise offends us. This can happen in any number of ways ranging from seemingly insignificant everyday annoyances, to major personal violations. One of these threads won’t make much of a difference, but my impression is that they’re like the crapware that can infect your computer. No one little program does much damage, but once you’ve got a ton of them each taking up a small trickle of your resources 24/7, the effect is cumulative and it lags your entire system. To remove these I simply imagine myself gathering them up in a bundle in front of my solar plexus chakra (the energy center between the heart and navel) and cutting through them all at once. The first time I did this I speculate that I must’ve had a ton of them, possibly going back years, because I felt really light, and fantastic mentally, for about three days after.

Clamping

This is a more temporary measure to stop the flow of energy between yourself and the other person when you wish to do so without actually ending the relationship. This can be useful if there’s been a falling out, and you need some time to sort your feelings out and get your head back together so it can be addressed in a balanced and objective way. To do this I simply imagine myself putting a clamp on our connection and squeezing it closed. I generally put clamps close to my physical body and inside my aura, which I believe helps keep them from being removed until I choose to do so.

While writing this it has occurred to me that this may be a better approach than cutting if you still have to interact with the other individual. A cut connection can still be re-attached under certain circumstances, but based on my experiences I believe that having the cord still intact, but clamped, may prevent a new one from forming in addition to blocking the energy exchange of the old one. More experience is required to test this idea, however.

I came up with the idea to clamp a connection somewhat instinctively, after a painful falling out with a good friend – and found out how effective it was after realizing I had completely forgotten that I had done so for a little over a year. Her and I worked out and resolved the conflict soon after it happened, but even though we had forgiven each other, our relationship was much more distant than before. Eventually after not having heard from this person for several months, I remembered the clamp, and removed it. I heard from her the very next day, and our friendship quickly picked up again with the same closeness as it had before the original conflict.

Filtering

This is even more temporary than clamping, and is more suited to controlling what kind of energy is coming through a connection. If a relationship is generally healthy, but for whatever reason you’re being negatively affected by the other person’s energy due to present circumstances, you can filter out the negativity but keep the good stuff coming through. This can be as simple as stuffing some cotton into your end of the cord (or, in my case, using a coffee filter and a rubber band :P), or as complex as constructing a filter programmed to only accept positive energy. A one-way filter can also be useful during times when the other person is going through a rough period, and you want to continue supporting them without taking on a negative mental state yourself.

So far the concepts we’ve explored have mostly related to protecting ourselves against the unhealthy effects cords can have, but there are positive and even fun things that can be done with them too. For example, if there is someone you’d like to get back in touch with but don’t have any way to contact them, it may be possible to re-establish contact by “nudging” them through the old connection. To attempt this, just give the cord a few tugs, and send some loving or otherwise positive energy through it, and forget about it. At the very least I believe this will get the person thinking about you, and there’s a possibility that you might get a phone call or a chance encounter at some point afterward. Note that the way things play out depends on a lot of factors, such as the other person’s willingness to get in touch with you, and whether or not both of your circumstances make it possible or advisable.

The first time I tried this, I did so not really thinking I was accomplishing anything – though I wonder if that enabled a degree of detachment from the outcome, making it more effective. I found myself thinking of an old friend I hadn’t talked to for about six years, so I reached for the connection (that may or may not have still existed as far as I knew) sent some love through and tugged on it. I forgot I had done this until the next day, when I got a message from my mom saying she had randomly run into said friend, who gave her a number and asked to have me get in touch. Suddenly remembering the cord-tugging of the day before, I picked my jaw up off the floor and gave my friend a call.

By now, if the idea of cording is new to you, you’ve probably got any number of past situations running through your head where these cords may have been created, if you’re anything like I was when I first discovered the concept. If you’re already familiar with them, perhaps I’ve presented you with a few new ideas to work and experiment with. Whatever the case may be, I hope I’ve given you a few new tools with which to improve your relationships and consciously direct your energy in a more balanced and focused way.

–Palehorse

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