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Hints for Smoother Integration (Part 7)


Soul Fragmentation Series

1. Soul Fragmentation Explained
2. Three Rules Governing Soul Fragmentation
3. Englightenment, Salvation and the Rejection of Power
4. Soul Fragmentation, Neg Interference and the Paranormal
5. The Law of Attraction and the Mobile Soul
6. Adding a New Dimension to Your Perception
7. Tips for Smoother Integration


As this series expanded a lot further than the originally intended two posts (oops), it became evident that the most fitting way to end it would be to provide some info on doing one’s own integration work. This posed a dilemma though. As you know if you’ve read through the rest of the series, integration work, while rewarding, is not without its dangers and difficulties. I do not claim to be an expert on soul retrieval, and have never received qualified Shamanic training (in this life anyway!), though in a sense most of my life has been a crash course of sorts. Nor would it be very responsible for me or anybody to try and provide said training in a blog post. It is my understanding though that by the time one is well integrated and knowledgeable enough that initiating retrieval is a possibility, not much further training is necessary.

That said, I strongly suspect that the coming years will see us “cleaning up our own mess” and having all things restored to their rightful place, affecting a “system reset” of sorts for all the planes on which we exist. For practical purposes this means that each soul reintegrates all of its own “stuff” – all the aspects of ourselves we have fragmented, released, relinquished, rejected, handed away and abdicated responsibility for, will be returning to us. Keeping in mind that I have done much of this work deliberately, and it has still been an often difficult, messy, painful, crazy-making process, it stands to reason that if it is going to be happening on a wide scale, it would be a good idea for information on this phenomenon to become more widespread. I’m not sure I want to know what it looks like when the better part of six billion people who have never been big fans of personal responsibility have a close encounter with their respective shadows all at once, but I strongly suspect that every individual doing their own inner work has a powerful effect on the energetic network of which we are all part.

With that understood this post is not to be taken as a manual for soul retrieval, but rather “this is how I did it,” and “these are the key factors I’ve identified that caused my own process to run much more smoothly than it otherwise might have.”

The first bit of advice should probably go without saying, but it is important to realize that you have a say in how this process plays out. One of my biggest pet peeves is that with potentially volatile spiritual processes like integration, as well as kundalini and awakening in general, all too often there’s a tendency to perceive ourselves as being at the mercy of forces we couldn’t possibly hope to understand, much less harness and work with in a spirit of cooperation. Even worse, there’s often a strong undercurrent (assuming it’s not said outright) that it’s “not our place” to have a say in how these processes play out.

Bullshit!

This is your awakening, your system, your integration process, and your best interest is what’s at stake – so take charge of it! Firmly stating your intent about how you want the process to go is a great way to do that. Gaining knowledge of what’s happening via research, asking for guidance from whatever higher help you feel an affinity for (your own Higher Self is always a safe bet), and following your own intuition are the best ways to start.

The first step toward accomplishing any goal is to set a strong, concise “mission statement” of your intent, and take stock of what tools you already have on hand to work toward it. In this case the goal is full reintegration – that all parts of your soul that originated with you will return to you, to form a harmonious Whole, in the smoothest possible way. I strongly recommend setting your intent to integrate your aspects from the easiest and most agreeable, to the least so. This ensures that you don’t suddenly have something dysfunctional or otherwise more substantial than your local Self return that hits like a cannonball, which, at worst, can shatter and further fragment the psyche. Reintegrating a large volume of aspects that weren’t all that dissonant or unfamiliar to begin with before moving onto the more difficult stuff, ensures that when aspects return that are dark and even potentially hostile, you’re already balanced, secure and substantial enough that this won’t be overwhelming.

Start With What You Have

I recommend starting out with integration work, not by seeking out fragmented aspects at all, but by starting with the aspects of yourself that are already on hand and most familiar. Starting out by balancing and integrating yourself as you stand right now has the dual benefits of giving you a solid foundation for successfully taking up the later stages of this work, and creates an environment that will attract many aspects of the Self back to reintegrate without otherwise having to seek them out at all.

In his seminal work, Initiation into Hermetics (aff.), Franz Bardon offers a technique for balancing the personality, called “Soul Mirroring,” which is a useful exercise in itself, regardless of whether one is interested in further pursuing his system of initiation. This involves spending a week (or more, if necessary) making two lists – one of all your shortcomings, faults, bad habits, self-sabotaging tendencies and so forth; the other list is of all your strengths. It is recommended that you be as detailed and specific as possible with this.

The next step is to find ways to turn the weaknesses into strengths, and integrate the entire set of traits into a unified whole. The technique I’ve gotten the most use out of is along the lines of what’s described in my article Internal Time Travel, where you interact with an aspect of yourself in meditation as if it was a separate person, allowing you to change the way it’s operating at the root. For each of the traits you’ve listed, I recommend spending some time identifying whether there is a faulty set of beliefs or assumptions at the root of the trait. Is there a fear that you can resolve? Are you being influenced by a past experience that is no longer relevant? Are you using your energy in a way that’s inefficient, destructive or otherwise not helping you? It can be pretty amazing how quickly even longstanding and seemingly deeply rooted issues can be completely transformed, simply by identifying the faulty programming that gave rise to it, and updating the aspect of the Self that holds it with a healthier outlook.

Don’t be surprised to find that aspects of yourself hold a wide range of beliefs and patterning that you don’t remember ever actually believing or operating with consciously, as well as things you did at one time but have long since abandoned in practice that are nonetheless still having a subconscious influence. It is not uncommon for aspects of the Self to be operating with programming we’ve simply absorbed from our environment even if we’ve never accepted, or in some cases, even rejected it consciously. In other cases, programming that seems to be completely out of left field and at odds with who we are in practice, can be imposed due to various forms of negative interference. While it is important to be thorough with this work, don’t get too hung up on following everything to where it came from, why, and understanding all the history and context. Aside of the fact that some things just plain don’t make logical sense where the subconscious mind is concerned, one can easily get lost in details, when in reality the goal is simply to identify and remove destructive programming, and usually only a minimum amount of background details are necessary to accomplish that.

In spite of the fact that you’ve done your detailed soul mirroring lists, it is common for areas of concern to keep coming into awareness long afterward that were not recognized as a problem (or even part of the Self) at the time of the original list. By definition, your Shadow consists of aspects that you’ve labelled “other” and projected outward; sometimes this projection is so complete that the aspect in question ends up completely alien to the way we view our self-concept. So, most likely they won’t all come out at once — but the initial Soul Mirroring exercise is a great way to get the ball rolling, give the subconscious mind the message that you intend to become aware of these aspects, and take a substantial chunk out of the ensuing work.

The Value of a Strong Ego

Cultivating a strong personality, conscious mind and sense of self, has been one of my biggest assets when taking on some of the more difficult situations that can come with integration work.

Imagine for a moment that you’ve got a collection of very dissonant, conflicted characters who are part of a group that is tasked with figuring out how to function as a unit. Not all the members are entirely functional; some are downright nutty. Others have their own agenda entirely. Still others are operating with some very strange ideas about “the way things are,” or should be. You’ve also got imposters who do not belong in the group, trying to pass themselves off as members, and other members returning in a state that, if left to their own devices, could shatter the entire project.

If you want to accomplish this objective, preferably without madness or bloodshed, you’re going to need a leader whose traits include strength, flexibility, understanding, patience, discernment and excellent critical thinking skills, who can lay down “how it’s going to be” and take no crap when the need arises.

The conscious mind is ideally suited to this role, I find – as it’s the role it generally occupies to begin with. The problem with the ego is not that it exists, as some traditions suggest – it’s that, like most other aspects of the Self, it is misaligned and not doing its job properly. Most egos are far too rigid, self-limiting and badly programmed to be able to act as the mediator I described above, but as I said in a past article, this is down to socialization rather than the mind being inherently “bad.”

By default, the mind is the part of the Self making it seem like there is only one self, rather than the rowdy bunch of competing interests described above. The conscious mind normally holds them all relatively stable even if not entirely at peace, and keeps the more volatile or otherwise socially unacceptable ones from gaining too much control over the central personality. Unfortunately the way the ego usually accomplishes this is with a rigid view of “the way things are and should be,” as well as various combinations of releasing, repressing or otherwise getting rid of aspects that are perceived as being too much trouble, as has been described throughout this series.

Needless to say I am not a fan of approaches to the ego that include denigrating it, failing to take its concerns seriously or observing it while holding the intent that it is a “silly monkey.” The chattering of the ego originates with the very subconscious aspects we’re trying to unify, and in many cases, denigrating them is what caused them to fragment in the first place. Get in the habit of observing this voice in a condescending fashion without addressing their concerns in some way, and what do you think happens when you’ve got an autonomous Shadow aspect that needs to be told forcefully to cease and desist so that it can release its programming and integrate? Yep: said aspect will say “you’re not the boss of me, monkey!” and deny the authority of your conscious mind in the same way that you have. At worst, if you’ve eroded your own authority to the extent that most religions encourage, a difficult aspect may decide “I’m running things now,” and you’ve got something approximating a case of possession on your hands.

After a time, the ego will generally behave in the way that its been treated. Treat it as a valuable part of the Whole that is expected to play a necessary role in this work just like all your other aspects, and hold it to the standard you expect of yourself, and it will rise to the occasion.

Make friends with your energy body

Bardon points out in his aforementioned book that the negative traits you list can be linked to one of the four elements (earth, water, fire, air). Those are in turn associated with the bottom four chakras, which he doesn’t state, but I have found to be useful information for doing this work. Usually the aspects of the Self that you interact with and integrate will be associated with one or more chakras. Thus working with and learning about your energy body, with an emphasis on the chakras, has the effects of creating a supportive environment that encourages aspects that have split from them to return, as well as strengthening the structures and pathways to safely accommodate them.

Working regularly with energy also increases your sensitivity, which will allow you to better discern “me” from “not me.” There are many entities that would love to convince you to let them “integrate” with your system, but that doesn’t mean it’s a good idea. ;) Conversely, aspects of the Shadow side of the self might well behave much like your average negative entity, but that doesn’t mean they should be rejected, unless it is not possible to safely integrate without compromising the rest of you at the time. Once you are familiar with the feel of your own energy signature, you will be in a good position to succesfully identify aspects that originated with you, upon their return.

The energy work system I’ve started with, and still use, is Robert Bruces NEW. I recommend it highly for its effectiveness, ease of use, and emphasis on balanced energetic development. A full instruction manual can be found here.

Cultivate your Center

While one’s “center” will ultimately consist of the Higher Self and Kundalini, those two, and the other aspects of integration, can and do come into play for individuals in literally any order, and I’m not sure there’s any “best” order to recommend. As in my case, it’s very possible to do a lot of integration work (deliberately or not) before achieving a conscious connection with one’s Higher Self or raising Kundalini, but one should still have a sense of their own center to work with in the meantime.

When I started integrating fragmented aspects of myself that came back with all manner of beliefs, values and behavior, I soon recognized the need for a set of values to unite them all. Just because these aspects are relieved of toxic programming and willing to play nice, doesn’t mean they’re not still pulling in all directions. ;) So, to preserve coherency, sanity and a unified sense of direction, I began looking for a set of values that were specific enough to have the desired unifying effect, yet universally applicable. Deliberation and intuitive proddings led me to realize that part of one’s center and value system is already inbuilt and integral to the function of the chakras – it’s just that usually we’ve got all sorts of weird hangups and distorted beliefs about them that lead to poor understanding of what they actually are, and thus further internal discord.

My exploration of this subject led me to Power, Wisdom and Love as the three universal principles that are among the most basic building blocks of creation as well as our chakra systems, and thus a reliable combination to aid in the unifying of the soul. While I generally hesitate to impose values on others, I do hold that these three are the basis for all value systems, whether by affirmation or negation. When properly understood, our relation and expression of these three principles will be filtered through our major personality archetypes, and can be implemented and combined creatively, like an artist who has gained understanding and experience with his tools and is then able to use them fluidly, in a masterful display of self expression.

Get to Know Your Archetypes

One of my biggest breakthroughs in integration work came after reading the book Sacred Contracts (aff.) by Caroline Myss, and later doing a lot more study of Carl Jung’s take on the subject than I had previously. Myss puts forth the premise that we all have 12 major archetypes; four universal “survival archetypes,” common to all, as well as eight more that combine to give rise to your own personal essence.

After spending a while exploring that premise, I can vouch for the fact that it carries a lot of validity. While Myss’s book relates to the subject of identifying your “soul contract,” a concept I don’t have much use for, her ideas provided a good jumping-off point to work with my archetypes for the purpose of integration. Identifying and working consciously with the primary archetypes that are influencing your personality and coloring your experience carries many benefits, starting with gaining further understanding of the anatomy of your subconscious mind, as well as identifying aspects of yourself that are genuinely yours, as opposed to conditioning that has been imposed by external sources. Once I started experimenting, I found it surprisingly easy to dialogue with my archetypes mentally as if talking to a separate identity, and making visible lasting changes. In this way it is possible to identify what specific patterns they’re operating with, release them of destructive programming and patterns, and giving them new “marching orders” if need be.

Rather than viewing the subconscious mind as a mysterious, disorganized and potentially frightening mess of gawd-knows-what, this boils a big part of the task down to working with a group of twelve to get them to the point of consensus, so that there’s only one of you – which is really what integration is all about. I definitely have a few future articles planned on the subject of archetypes, so stay tuned for that.

Practice Unconditional Self Acceptance

The whole reason we have a Shadow side of the Self to begin with, is because we have rejected those parts of ourselves as “wrong,” or have allowed others to do so. Thus, unconditional self acceptance is vital to successful integration, and should be practiced with diligence and free of judgment. A good rule to go by is that there are no “wrong” parts of the Self – only parts aligned with crappy programming and faulty beliefs. If you go about this work for any length of time you will encounter aspects of yourself that express in ways that are twisted, disturbing, malicious and pretty much every other destructive pattern under the sun. As a rule, if you think about the things you condemn most strongly, it is safe to say that some forgotten part of yourself is out engaging in that very activity on autopilot as we speak. The sooner we all just accept that we’re all in the same boat in this regard, the sooner we can get on with it and clean up our own mess, as it were. The mistake here is to identify the programming with the aspect (and thus discard both) – the problem is the faulty programming; the soul-fragment is part of the Self with a role to fulfill. These roles vary, but broadly speaking, well aligned Shadow aspects are a source of dynamic and creativity. Thus, my approach to all such aspects is to relieve them of their destructive programming and give them something better to operate with if appropriate, at which point they generally “snap into place” as functional (if not very PC) facets of the whole.

While it’s decidedly unnerving and likely a bit intimidating to look forward to meeting up with Self-aspects that are a vibrational match for Hannibal Lecter, there are ways to make this easier on ourselves. My previously stated rule about holding the strong intention to integrate in the order that makes for the smoothest experience holds here. Doing it this way, the Self local to the physical body and conscious mind builds a strong foundation and an increasingly organized and formidable Whole, that can safely integrate increasingly substantial and possibly adversarial fragments without difficulty.

As an aside, I am NOT of the opinion that everything negative we might encounter originates as a projection of the mind. I would however be willing to state with near certainty that if you have experienced significant negative interference, then part of your unconscious Self is either allowing, inviting, actively participating, or of all the above. It is not unheard of for interference to be directly perpetrated by misaligned soul fragments, though I would say it’s probably more common that said fragments are “helped” by other things that are either opportunistic or have an agenda.

I have additionally experienced aspects I’ve already become aware of and re-aligned, having destructive programming re-imposed on them coercively via interference. This leads me to believe that all the disturbing stuff we find our Shadow operating with did not necessarily originate with ourselves – it may just as easily be imposed on an aspect that has drifted around the astral for any length of time, vulnerable to being reprogrammed at will by any entity with an interest in doing so. This is likely the cause of the phenomenon I pointed out in a previous article, where negative astral manifestations, viewed clairvoyantly, often appear as something humanoid in various stages of regressing into something visibly demonic. I point this out as yet another example of why one should remain nonjudgmental and objective toward any unpleasant aspects of the Self. It’s like having someone throw trash on your lawn and ride off into the sunset — it’s an irritating problem, but you don’t judge yourself for having a dirty lawn; there’s not much to do but clean it up. Once a fragment’s patterning has been recognized consciously, it’s nothing to identify with or feel guilty about regardless of where it originated; just get rid of the programming!

Thus concludes the Soul Fragmentation series. While I will be exploring many of the concepts I’ve covered much more in depth in the future, my aim here has been to provide a viable framework for understanding, as well as for taking up personal integration work in a way that is reasonably safe and balanced. The further I go, the more I’m convinced that there are fewer things more important or pressing than the integration of humanity. It is thus my hope that my contributions to the subject prove helpful, and I wish you all the best on your path.

–Palehorse
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Coralie's Manifestation Manual


Introduction

First of all, this is a manifestation manual. It’s not about the ‘why’ or ‘why nots’ of manifestation- it’s a how-to. I’m sure you can find many other articles about why it works or why someone may believe it doesn’t. This is not for that.

The methods that I will explain are methods that I have learned from various sources, and I will illustrate them the way I have put them to use. They have personally worked for me- because I ‘knew’ they would. If you want to derive some benefit from it, one thing to do is to believe it will work, or at least to believe it can- and to follow the steps in order. This is important- to not do it would be like to cleaning up your closet without throwing anything out- unless you already dispose of excessive things in your daily life it just won’t work.

Catalogue and List

Find out what you really want.

Do you really want an object, or the way it makes you feel? Ponder this, for it is very important. Once you have identified what you want, remember how it makes you feel, for that is very important for the process.

Denials, False Beliefs. Things that Stand in your Way

Why can’t you have it? Make a list of the reasons why you don’t feel you have it. Can you afford it? Is money the problem? Do you not feel deserving of the object? Is there something about the object that makes you stop and doubt why you can’t have it? List as many reasons you can for not being able to have it- from the inconsequential, ridiculous to the very serious.

Put this list aside for later.

Now you will get into your psychology. Your ideas, where they came from, and how to verify them. If you were born into a religion, you need to make a list of the beliefs about yourself and the world that come from it. Next put down the ideas about the world you got from your parents, no matter if they are ideas you no longer believe. It is irrelevant at this point- you heard it from them, so it goes into the list. Next, make a list of ideas you have gotten from your peers (friends, coworkers, etc.) For example, if you work in an office you may hear jokes like “another day another penny” etc. Then, lastly, write about the ideas you have obtained from society at large: What you see on TV, what your political party of choice tells you about society, etc.

The past and how it affects you

Now, here comes the longest, most tedious part, the part that may be painful, but must be dealt with: Take the first ‘worldview list’, the one from your parents and religion, and ask yourself how to reconcile those ideas with what you want. If you grew up in a religion that preaches poverty as a good thing, then wanting a big fancy car may be incompatible with your wish. If you grew up in a family in which privation was the norm, in which people with money were looked down on, then you becoming one of them may cause internal conflict. It is at this point in which you must decide where your desire is coming from. If you desire something that is incompatible with your deeply held beliefs, it will not come into fruition until it is reconciled. At this moment you must decide- is this desire ok for me to have? Is it selfish, will it deprive someone else? It is this moment when deep introspection is necessary: If you wish for a harmonious family life then it wouldn’t seem to cause an internal conflict- if you wish for a million dollars so you can have some sort of revenge on someone (negative need) then the results can backfire on you. If you recognize that some of the beliefs you grew up with are no longer what you believe now, then this is the moment in which you must challenge them, because plainly rejecting them isn’t going to work. This is where some of the homework is. At this point, you have to:

Take the list of beliefs you made, and disprove them.

If you believe that “money is the root of all evil” then you must look it up: It’s (for example in this case) “the love of money is the root of all evil”. This is a very important thing to realize; both sentences don’t mean the same thing, and the first one (which is incorrect, but the one you hear most repeated) can make you make unfortunate choices when it comes down to handling it. This may be painful, but you have to do this process with all the beliefs that are not in line with your goal. If this is not possible then you need to get another goal. It’s that simple.

When you have gone through all your lists, (which could take a while), you will then make a list of the beliefs you have discarded, and a list of the beliefs you have kept or substituted. You will then, make a ceremony and burn down the discarded beliefs, and flush them down the toilet. You will then keep your new list of beliefs for later.

No, you’re not done. This is the one that is most painful. Make a list of all the people who ever have hurt you (I mean cause you pain, not unimportant things), and write what they did to you. Then find a way to forgive them. I don’t mean ‘pretend that it was ok’; that is not forgiveness, that is denial. One way is to revisit what happened, see what part you had in the situation, and then forgive them for what they did to you, and ask (mentally) for forgiveness for whatever part you had in the situation.

Once that is done, and it may take a long time, you may then decide who stays in your life and who doesn’t, and emotionally let them go- I don’t mean leave your wife/girlfriend/husband, etc. I mean do a severing ritual/meditation and emotionally let them go. That way even if they are there they won’t have a hold on your emotions. Do this as many times as possible. This is extremely important because in manifesting, you must claim your God-given power, and a victim is a person who has given away their power to someone else. So victimhood must go. If you feel a sense of nobility in victimhood, it’s time to go back to your lists of beliefs-and find out where it came from, and go through this ‘debunking’ process before you continue.

These steps may have to be taken more than once, because sometimes in your life stuff comes up that you thought was resolved. It is ok to ’start all over’- There is never finality in this process. While we exist in this three-dimensional existence things do and will come up.

At this point your list of ‘why I can’t have/do this’ should be empty.

On to Manifesting

Now you are ready to do some manifesting. Realize that manifestation is what we are here to do- We (and I mean everything and everyone) create this existence. This is our job, and what we do every day. You either do it subconsciously (another day, another dollar) or consciously: “The Universe is an unlimited source”. It is important that we realize we are not talking about money or objects only- in fact money and objects are the result of our manifested emotion. So the emotion better be positive and constructive. This has to be very clear, and it not up for debate. We can discuss until the cows come home about this, but if you don’t believe this, then this manual isn’t for you.

To improve the quality and effectiveness of your creative power, these are the steps:

Cultivate gratitude.

Be grateful for what you have. You are the product or expression of the Universal creative principle (one of the attributes of God, for those religiously inclined) and it is essential that we recognize the source- gratitude opens up channels for more creativity. So thank your God for everything you have, and when you get something, thank God (the Universe, Spirit, the Creative principle…) for it. That doesn’t mean you don’t thank or feel gratitude towards the person/organization your good came from- Wherever it came from is an actualization of this principle. So if Grandma gave me $20.00 I must feel grateful for the fact that she thought of me and wanted me to have it, and also thankful for God for bringing her to me for this good thing. Love and Gratitude.

Realize that you are part (an essential part) of everything that is. Realize that everything you do is good (and if it isn’t, then it’s time to change that) for the greater whole. So apply this feeling of positive contribution to the whole to everything you do. Even if you don’t love it, you are doing somebody good. So when you pay your light bill, remember that your money is part of the money that one of the people working there might need to feed his/her family, and they can do it because of people like you. And God working through you for that/these person/people.

Tithe.

I don’t mean to a church or religious organization, but that’s ok too, provided that you feel that it’s for the benefit of others. Tithing applies to anything or anybody. If there is someone who is hungry, feeding them is tithing. Reading to the blind is tithing. You get the picture. Your prosperity is for the good of the universe. You deserve to be prosperous.

Why all this giving? Three answers: One: You are the manifestation of good in this world. Giving out of Love, or the desire to do good puts you in harmony to the highest part of yourself. Two: You are part of the greater picture: The more good you do, the more good there is to come back to you. Three: The universe abhors a vacuum. If you give, you give the Universe a chance to fill the empty space. And since the Universe is always creating itself, you will probably get more than what you gave. (The universe is always creating itself? Yep, that’s why it’s inflating).

It has been said that Love is the only thing that’s real, and I agree with this. I don’t mean what is popularly thought of as love (lust, wanting to possess, etc.) but what is known as the drive to want the best for someone else, the desire to protect someone else, in the material sense. Without getting into mythology, it has been reported by people that have had NDE’s that the only beings (people) that existed or they thought about were the people (animals, etc.) that they loved- nothing else seemed to exist in the state they were in. So let’s take that into consideration: When you want to manifest, what is the most important part of it is how the object of manifestation is going to make you feel. When you think of this, you need to recall that emotion- you have to make the emotion happen when you think of the object. So, if I want to manifest a pool, when I think of this pool, instead of thinking “I want this pool” which is a big no-no I have to think about the good times I am going to happen in it. The feeling of love has to be tied to it: (Love as in: Having fun with your family/friends that you love, etc.).

Visualize and Realize. (I know, it sounds cheesy, but it rhymes)

Always visualize what you want in the present as if you have it already. Realize you are putting positive energy in manifesting something that already exists in the astral- What you are doing is helping it manifest in the actual (material,time space continuum, yadda yadda…). This may take time in the actual, but if you think about it as something in the future, you are pushing the deadline forward- permanently. Remember that in the astral, it is always now. Only the actual takes time. So you think of what you want as if you have it already- because somewhere you have it already- you just want it in the actual- already. When you think of something as being in the future, you are affirming that it is not here now. So if you want something, you have to affirm it is here now. Just ’cause you don’t see it yet doesn’t mean it’s not here at all. It’s here, you just haven’t seen it yet.

The last part of the journey towards manifestation:

Affirmation.

This is the part many (including me) have made fun of, yet it works. It helps undo the damage that negative programming has put in your understanding. And it can help if you apply yourself to it. Depending on what you want to manifest, affirmation can be tedious or easy. This is how I do it, and it’s easy for me. (Started out tediously, but I trimmed it into what worked for me)- so here it is:

Remember the list of pro’s and cons for what we wanted to manifest? We got rid of the cons, now we turn the pro’s into affirmations. In the present tense, as if you have it now.

In the original example, I wanted a car. So I wrote: “It’s going to help the economy if I get this car”. This turns into: “My beautiful new car is good for the economy.” This is an affirmation. Do this with each of your pros. Then look around your life and see if there is negativity in places you wouldn’t expect, and write affirmations that deny the reality of this negativity. I do this in my home office, where I open the mail, and go in the internet. All kinds of negative programming flood the mail daily, so I have stuff dispersed in places I can see them where I do most of this type of activity: Kind of a self-styled subliminal programming. For example, amongst my daily-use envelopes I have a few that say stuff like “God is my Supply”, and “Only Good things Happen to me.” All my files say “Trust God” on the inside. Other general things like “There is no limit to God’s Good” and stuff like that. So when I open a piece of mail trying to sell me “help with my financial problems” I am counteracting with “God is my Supply=No limits”. It’s sneaky but I can be sneaky right back.

Of course, this is how I do this- if you are opposed to the idea of God for whichever reason, you can use “The Universe” “The Creative Principle” or whatever resonates with you (i.e. ‘floats your boat’). The idea is to continue to feed the inner creative power that you possess. Of course, if you don’t believe you possess it then you probably stopped reading this a while ago, and if you didn’t, then try it for kicks and giggles.
It’s just a matter of where you want to focus your mind.

Affirmations should be done before going to sleep, and should be at first written and read aloud to yourself, and later on in your process you can do them in your head. But they should be done for at least a month at first, and then tapered down to ‘as needed’. As I said before, they should be told in the present “I love my new car” and as simply as possible. For example, the above affirmation would be how I tell the one I was previously describing in the description.

I just want to add that this is a simple manifesting manual, it can be used for anything provided you have the ability to focus to this degree. It’s not meant to substitute whatever religious doctrine you subscribe to and works for you, and it definitely shouldn’t be substituted for any medical treatment you may be having- but it can be used in conjunction with whatever form of healing you have chosen. Not being a healer, I will stay away from that, and leave it to the experts, energetic and otherwise.

Cheers and giggles, C.F.

Written by Coralie Ferrandiz.
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Dynamite Your Limitations!



Today I’m going to share a method for blowing through blocks, demolishing limitations and clearing out internal debris that I have been getting a LOT of great use out of.

Many personal development techniques involve things like repeating endless affirmations to implant an idea in one’s subconscious mind. Others recommend passive forms of meditation that, over years, possibly lifetimes, cause the mind and personality to integrate on their own. While these techniques will work to affect change, eventually — in the meantime you’ve still got all your old habits, blocks and fears, limiting your ability to fulfill your potential. If you picture one of those blocks as a brick wall, passive meditation techniques could be likened to removing it with wind and water erosion. Repeating affirmations takes time not only to gain access to the wall, but could be likened to replacing it with another structure, by hand, brick by brick. Technically effective, but very time consuming.

To each his own — but when I’ve got a wall in front of me, and I need it gone, I’d much prefer to pull out a sledgehammer and do some smashy-smashy. :D

One of the reasons I love symbolism and metaphor so much, is that they are the language of the subconscious mind. Since the subconscious is arguably the foundation of how we experience our lives, where much of our experience is created even, learning to speak its language is a powerful tool for those who want to be conscious, deliberate cocreators of their experience. To this end I have found that if I can frame an issue in symbolic language, and then interact with those symbols in meditation — they are often found to exist as literal energetic constructs that are performing some function in my system, for better or worse. These structures are often the result of long-held beliefs, faulty coping mechanisms, and reactionary defensiveness. Adopting healthier beliefs and habits certainly helps — but if they ever make a dent in those subconscious structures, it will be a very gradual process; meanwhile the structures themselves continue to carry out their old function until they’re completely removed. The following technique is used to quickly and directly remove structures in your subconscious and energy that aren’t serving your best interest, including but not limited to fears, anxiety, bad habits, bad coping mechanisms, habitual negativity and faulty belief structures.

The Technique

If you have a favorite meditation technique, do that. If not, do some stretches, get comfortable and clear your mind as best you can while taking ten or more deep breaths.

When ready, with eyes closed, mentally ask to see the structure representing the issue, beliefs or pattern you’d like to remove, being as specific as you can. Picture it as a building, though if a structure appears in your mind’s eye on its own, go with that.

Demolish the structure. My usual method involves rolling explosives in through the door like a bowling ball, and pressing down on a somewhat cartoonish detonator. :P Feel all these actions as well as you’re able, as if you were really there. Don’t just picture it; DO it, mentally. Push the proverbial “red button”; hear and feel the blast; see the structure reduced to rubble. Feel the sudden release and clarity it left behind.

Now imagine yourself driving a bulldozer, and push the rubble into a pit of violet flame, so that there’s now a clean flat surface where the building once stood.

After you remove an old structure, you may want to leave it at that, or you may want to put something better in its place. If you’d like to implant a new belief, suggestion or operating procedure, I recommend the technique for changing beliefs at their root I posted on previously.

Explanation and My Experiences

The significance of most of the symbols should be pretty clear — you symbolize the issue in question in a way the subconscious mind understands, and send a clear message that you want it gone, removing any associated energetic structures in the process. The reason I use violet flame is that violet flame is a type of energy most commonly associated with spiritual alchemy. The significance of using it in this exercise is that any part of the debris that isn’t in your best interest is either burned away or transmuted into something beneficial, and anything worth keeping is left for future use.

Don’t worry if you don’t feel like you’re great at visualizing. I’m not great at visuals myself — most of my visualizations are more like a series of brief snapshots than a continuous movie, and a lot of what I do is more by feel and intent in a more abstract sense, than literal sight. It’s something I’m working on, but for the sake of effectiveness with this exercise it doesn’t seem to make much difference either way. I also don’t worry too much about physical realism — i.e. rolling some dynamite in through a door wouldn’t make for a neat, well controlled demolition in the real world, but my imagination doesn’t seem to care. ;) The key is the symbolism and a strong intent; those two things are much more important than the actual form used, or the ability to hold the visuals. In fact, I would encourage you to tweak it and make it your own; make it fun for yourself.

I have used this technique numerous times to great effect. The first major issue I tackled had to do with a low level, almost constant anxiety I had identified causing problems in my system, and creating a lot more nagging resistance than I wanted to deal with in the average day. With a combination of tarot readings by Gehenna for insight into the problem, the dynamite technique, belief reprogramming and energy healing afterward, I was able to uncover that the anxiety actually had multiple causes, remove the related structures, put something better in their place and heal a lot of old wounds as if they’d never been there. Over a period of a few weeks, I was able to completely eliminate a huge amount of anxiety and tension from my system. This has vastly improved my overall quality of life, as well as my focus, ability to meditate, and my productivity in an average day.

The second major problem I solved was a massive structure blocking my heart chakra’s ability to fully function. In my last post I described negative beliefs as mercenaries, hired to build a fortress around one’s heart chakra. I found this to be a very accurate description of what was actually going on in mine. This subject may actually be worth expanding on in a future post because I believe that the majority of people who have not done deliberate internal work probably have their heart chakras blocked off to some degree. For now, suffice to say that during a time in my life when I was more vulnerable and less able to address conflict (and deliberate negative interference) in a way that was healthy for myself, I unknowingly built a massive wall around what I would identify as my feminine aspect — the more intuitive part that feels, reaches out, draws others in, and forms meaningful connections.

Interestingly, this came out when I asked to see any structures preventing my attempts to get better at spirit communication. I was shown a massive fortress, which I thought was probably blocking my crown chakra. Normally my ability to “see” these things is limited to brief flashes without much detail. This one though, was extremely vivid and well formed. If it was any more well formed, I’d probably be living in it. I could see the grains of sand in the mortar between the stones, it was that vivid. I took this to mean it had been there for a long time, and a lot of “work” had gone into forming it. I did my usual dynamiting routine — and clearly saw that it only took a small chunk out of the structure. Well… shit. :P So I walked around it (again underscoring how BIG this thing was), placing dynamite every few feet. That got ‘er down. ;) When I went to bulldoze the rubble, I could actually feel the bulldozer straining against these huge blocks of stone — pretty crazy. It wasn’t until after I removed this structure though, that I found out it hadn’t been in my crown chakra as I’d thought. In reality, I was now face to face with a now very exposed, and very upset, part of my heart chakra, that hadn’t seen the light of day in two decades. Long story short, after two days of sessions spent dialoguing with this aspect, getting it updated, comforted and apologizing for bad coping mechanisms, I made peace and got it integrated. The difference in my heart chakra was nothing short of stunning — it was more open, functional and “connecty” than I’ve ever known it to be.

At this point it’s worth noting that while I wish everyone could experience the enormous benefits of a fully open and functional heart chakra, it’s important to make sure you’re in a supportive (or at least not actively abusive) environment before doing work of this nature. The unblocked aspects will likely be the source of stored pain, and I’ll be honest, it’s not going to be pleasant until they’re fully integrated. Those aspects will also be very vulnerable, so I would strongly suggest not doing so if you’re in an abusive situation or overly negative environment. Ideally you would have someone on hand willing and able to give any emotional support, feedback and help with self-monitoring that is needed, especially when dealing with issues of past trauma. In those cases, the supervision of a qualified hypnotherapist or mental health professional may be advisable. Energy healing has also shown itself to be extremely helpful in the reintegration process. With that said, I’ll address some common questions I’ve been encountering about the dynamite technique.

Common Questions

What if I destroy something I probably shouldn’t?

It doesn’t really work that way. The way I understand it is that there are two kinds of internal structures. One is based on beliefs, entrenched habits, socialization, fears — all unproven “stuff” that gets piled on top of your true identity over the course of your life, distorting your perception of reality, and acting as an obstacle on the path of self-knowledge. The other kind is based on knowledge and personal experience — I use the term “gnosis.” You couldn’t demolish something you KNOW to be true if you wanted to — because you’ve experienced it firsthand. If you recognize that a structure is causing you to fear, or limit yourself, then you already know you’d be better off without it — this is just a symbolic way of letting your subconscious know “I want this gone, and gone yesterday.” Remember that you’re not working physically here, you’re working with symbols and intent — so it’s not like you’re going to aim at one structure, accidentally knock down another and find yourself convinced you’re a duck. :P

What if I don’t know all the specifics of what I’m demolishing?

I wondered this myself, but it doesn’t seem to make much of a difference whether you have full conscious knowledge or memory of the structure, its origin, history and everything it’s currently doing. I’ve used it on structures where I did have all this info, and I’ve done it with some where I didn’t have much more information than “there’s something in my system causing me anxiety”; in which case I simply said “show me the structure relating to this anxiety response.” In all cases its been about equally effective. Sometimes the instances where I have little info to go on are actually more fun, because I’ve had a lot of pleasant surprises; positive changes I could not have anticipated. That said, Gehenna’s readings were a tremendous help to me in gaining insight on what to target for maximum benefit. There was a period of a few weeks where this allowed me to zero in on and plow through a lot of major stuff in a short period; bam, bam, bam. So, consider that a recommendation for anyone who wants some clarity and insight before you start breaking stuff. :P

Is this an instant cure-all that will remove all my problems?

No. If anything it should be thought of as a way to get rid of entrenched resistance… but you still need to replace the old structure with better habits and knowledge gained from experience. Think of a bad habit as a thread that has looped around your legs, over and over, for a period of years, and your goal as something in the distance that you’re trying to walk toward. The structures that are removed by this technique are like the thread — it’ll be a LOT easier to achieve your goals with that resistance gone, but you’ve still got some walking to do. Without actively planning a course that’s different from the one you used to be on, and moving toward something better, you risk simply building another structure just like the one you got rid of. You can blow through the entrenched patterns that give you an overwhelming compulsion to procrastinate for instance — but for practical purposes, you still need to stop procrastinating.

WARNING: I’m not kidding when I say this technique will make changes in your system in a very fast and direct way. Fast changes can be disorienting, and cause symptoms of heavy clearing. This can mean a sense of “emptiness” or mental discomfort as your system adapts to operating without the former structure — like reaching for a security blanket that isn’t there anymore. It can also cause physical symptoms, much like detoxing the body can cause temporary physical discomfort. One should take it very literally that you’re getting rid of a structure, possibly one held for many years, and leaving nothing in its place. This should not be taken lightly. So if you plan on trying it, I’d strongly recommend experimenting with caution to start out, being very sure and specific about what you want gone, and not doing this with too many issues in too short a period. Treat it with the same respect you would physical explosives.

This exercise is not recommended for people with a history of mental illness, those in an emotionally vulnerable state, or especially fragile physical health. If you have ANY doubts about your ability to handle the effects of this exercise, please consult your doctor beforehand.

When I first came up with this technique, I got a little too excited about how effective it was, and did a lot of it at once. Bad idea. I was doing a major structure or two a day on average, and it went a bit like… “yay it’s working! Yay it’s working!” (Day 5 or so) “Ohhh crap it’s working a little too well, what did I doooo. *falls over*” :P I ended up completely drained energetically, mentally scattered, emotionally out of whack, nearly sick, and had to stop all inner work for about another week and a half until my system reorganized and recovered. For anyone who wants to try the technique, I would strongly recommend using it on ONE structure, and waiting for a minimum of three days to see how your system responds before going ahead with more. Since personal responsibility is one of the major themes of this site, I respect my readers enough to offer this information with the understanding that those who choose to apply it do so at their own discretion. Listen to your body, use common sense and find the pace that works best for you.

Be safe, have fun and by all means share your experiences with us! :)

–Palehorse

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Making Better Choices by Sensing the Outcome


We’ve all been there: you’re faced with a tough decision, and you have no idea which way to go. Asking for advice sometimes only goes so far, and weighing out the apparent pros and cons has yielded no clear answer. The logical option is not always the best one, because life is not always logical. Yet we don’t like to choose at random and barrel forward blindly when we can help it. But what do you do when there are so many unseen variables and the road ahead stretches into the unknown?

As a child of the 80’s I was really into a series of books called “Choose Your Own Adventure.” These books weren’t read in a linear way. Instead, every few pages there was a choice to make, and a prompt to turn to the corresponding page. If you were lucky the story continued on; if not you “died” or it would otherwise end. Now see, I’ve never been a fan of limiting my options, or linear progression in general — so at any given time I would have my fingers stuck in five different pages. If I didn’t like one outcome I’d just backtrack and pick the other. :P Now that we’re all grown up (sort of), wouldn’t it be nice if we could stick our little fingers into a few different options in advance? What if we could gain some sense of the outcomes of different choices before making them, in our lives?

We can.

I have developed a reliable method that can be used easily, even by those without a high degree of sensitivity, to get at least some kind of feel for different outcomes.

First it is helpful to keep in mind that time as we experience it is an illusion, and all the possible outcomes of any choice exist NOW, in the form of probabilities. Thus my technique involves reaching out and connecting with each of those probable choices and being open to any info we can receive about them.

In order to do this exercise, sit down and use whatever method you’re comfortable with to relax and clear your mind. The simplest technique is probably breath awareness — focus on your breath, and nothing else, for ten breaths. Its important to have a clear mind during this exercise, since you won’t be able to receive new information if your mind is already spinning with thoughts and feelings to begin with.

Once relaxed, with a clear mind, it’s a matter of reaching out with your awareness to feel out each of your choices. I personally do this in a more abstract way, without visuals. I simply hold one possible choice in mind and feel myself mentally moving toward it, and then I repeat this awareness action with the other choice(s). During this process I observe and make note of any changes in feeling, emotions and impressions I receive when reaching toward each option. Usually there is a pronounced difference in the way they feel, and by the time I’m done it’s fairly clear what the best choice for me would be. For those who are more visually-oriented it can be helpful to throw in some imagination. One option is to picture the different probabilities as pictures on a storyboard, and reach into them. Alternately you could view the choice as a fork in the road… walk down one side, see how it feels, then come back and walk down the other. Use whatever image (or lack thereof) is useful to you, to symbolize the different choices you have in front of you.

Similarly, different people process information in different ways, so it’s important to note any changes in your mental and physical state while going through this exercise. You might receive vague impressions, feel an emotional reaction, see images; it really doesn’t matter as long as you find the input you’re getting helpful. The point of saying this is that you not focus so much on how it’s “supposed” to happen that you miss what you actually get, which can apply to a lot of things for that matter.

While thinking over the material for this entry last night I came to some further realizations — the short of it being that I don’t do this nearly as often as I probably should. It is relatively rare that we’re faced with big, life-shaking decisions. The cumulative influence of the way we conduct ourselves every day has just as much impact on setting the course of our lives. A seemingly insignificant, mundane decision can have major unforseen consequences for better or worse. So, let’s practice looking to our internal guidance throughout the day, and not just when things get crazy. It’s a great way to strengthen one’s intuition, and my hypothesis is that not only will the info coming through will get more pronounced with practice, it will start coming through when we’re not deliberately reaching for it, to encourage us and let us know of possible pitfalls. Let’s find out, shall we?

–Palehorse

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"Ignore Button" Meditation for Life's Trolls



All instant messaging and email services have a function called the “ignore button.” If someone’s being abusive or just irritating, with the click of a button you can shut them out of your experience. Wouldn’t it be nice if we had something like this in real life?

Thanks to a technique I’ve developed and gotten a lot of good use out of, we do. It works well whether you want to shut a specific person out of your life, or you want to keep the person but want to shut out specific aspects of them that you don’t want any part of. Here are the two variations.

Your Life Is Your Castle

Get into a relaxed, meditative state. Picture yourself inside a large, stone castle fortress. This is to symbolize the self, and the fact that you are taking responsibility for who and what you will allow into your experience. In here, you’re safe — allow that feeling of security and confidence to build.

Picture the person in question at the gate. Outside is not only that person, but the universe in which you formerly associated with them — you’re leaving that universe, blocking off the entrance and crossing into a new one that they have no part in. Firmly tell them exactly why you’re doing what you intend to do. Explain why you can’t have that person in your life anymore. Say everything you would say to them in person (ideally you would do both, but sometimes this isn’t always practical, or even safe). Tell them that you refuse to allow them, their works and any of their influence in your life from this point on. I don’t allow the other person to speak during this exercise, because usually when I get to this point, the time for discussion is over and the fact that I can’t continue to have them in my life, abundantly clear. The next part is crucial: you then release your feelings about the situation into the old universe, and release the person as well. Tell them to go in peace.

When you finish, shut the door. I find it helpful to see and feel a heavy door that takes mental effort to push closed (an exercise of will, to further cement your intention), and seal. I then wave my hand over this door, making it disappear, leaving only a blank stone wall. At this time I turn around to the opposite wall where there’s another door. Outside this door is a bright sunny scene, with all your friends and loved ones whose company and role in your life you value the most. Stay in this scene for as long as you like, and then gently bring yourself back to full waking consciousness.

You can vary the imagery to suit your individual taste — if you’re more comfortable in a modern building with an advanced security system than a stone castle, use that. I just have a thing for medieval imagery. :P

Variation: Blocking Out Specific Aspects

By the time I got around to creating the alternate exercise, closing off to specific aspects of a person without shutting out the person themselves, I was doing this less with visual imagery and more by feel and will alone. As such I just held the concept of what I wanted to shut out, felt myself doing so, and opened up to their more positive aspects. I realize that explanation is a bit abstract and maybe not as easy to implement, so I’ve reverse engineered a variation of the original that should work the same way. In this exercise, outside the first gate you picture a situation where you encountered the aspect of the other person that you want to block out. See yourself in that situation, but instead of being annoyed, hurt or victimized, you say “STOP!” and then firmly explain that you will not allow this or situations like it to happen again; you will no longer allow this into your experience. Release your feelings about the situation as you exit that scene. After sealing the first gate, you walk out the second one into an experience you’ve had with the other person that you enjoyed.

Keeping the Castle Clean

These techniques can be extremely effective — but this depends largely on your willingness and ability to take responsibility for your own experience, and reactions. If you do the exercise but continue to simmer over what the person has done, or it’s still easy for them to “push your buttons,” then you’re still putting yourself in the victim role, which requires the presence of a tormentor. In other words, you’re sending out conflicting messages: you’re shutting them out and then inviting them right back in again to give them even more of your personal power. When we hold on to hurt and resentment, we hold part of the other person and the situation within us. In this case I recommend cord cutting, and doing the exercise from this post with the aspect of yourself that’s offended. That aspect needs to know that the other person is no longer a factor, but to keep it that way it needs to release the resentment. You may need to do the castle meditation more than once.

My experiences with this have been good and even surprising. Interestingly my most stunning success with it was with someone I’ve never actually met. This was the ex husband of someone I cared about who was harrassing her in various forms on an almost daily basis, and walking the fine line of legality. Since this was affecting me by extension, I did the technique to shut them and all their influence out of my experience. The harrassment stopped literally overnight, giving my loved one the breathing space to sort out her own perceptions and shut the harrasser out of her experience as well. What I believe happened was that by me doing the exercise, the aspects of the person being harrassed had to choose between aligning with me, and the harrasser, at the subconscious level, which was a no-brainer methinks. I have also used this to great effect with people I personally could not have in my life anymore, and it has become another powerful tool for me to take responsibility and determine the course of my experience.

–Palehorse

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Internal Time Travel


Previously I’ve discussed how it’s possible to change a belief at its root in order to make swift positive changes in the experiences it was creating, as well as how internal changes can produce powerful external changes. Today I’ll explain a technique I’ve discovered that will allow you to break negative patterns and heal old wounds almost instantaneously by interacting with past aspects of the self, which is another powerfully effective way to improve your life in the present. Here’s the story of how I discovered the technique.

Our story takes us to a college statistics class – thankfully the last math class I would ever have to take – but I wasn’t doing so well. Math has always been my arch nemesis, and this was no exception. After explaining the day’s lesson, the instructor invited anyone that was still having problems up to talk to him, so up I went. I explained that I had been following the book’s instructions on my graphing calculator, but the results still weren’t matching up according to what he had gone over; I asked if he’d take a look at my notes and tell me where I went wrong. He simply glanced at the notes, told me “if you’re using the calculator and still getting it wrong, you have serious problems” and sent me back to my seat. So, this guy that I’m paying to teach me insults me instead, and I still didn’t know where I’d went wrong. But instead of getting offended, the sheer oddness of the situation caused the dots to start connecting for me… back to an eerily similar event that had happened when I was five, that I had forgotten about years ago.

Rewind to my first grade classroom. We were doing partnered math work, and I had missed a step in my work without realizing it. Both I and my partner thought we were correct, a short argument ensued, and I was told on. The teacher walked over, looked at our work, looked at me and snapped “you need to learn how to count” and walked away. The parallels to the college incident immediately stuck out, except that from a child’s perspective, the event probably made a much greater impact. I was missing a crucial bit of info without knowing it, had just been insulted by an adult, and still had no idea where I went wrong.

More thinking on the connections between the two incidents (and many similar ones in between) led me to some important conclusions. The subconscious doesn’t recognize linear time. So when an aspect of the self (like this childhood aspect) is wounded, insulted or otherwise offended, and the incident isn’t resolved when it happens, the aspect continues to exist in that same state until it is recognized and addressed. It then expresses itself by causing the same incident to play out again and again in our lives, in hopes of drawing our attention back to resolving the original issue. Unfortunately this phenomenon usually gets misinterpreted, and we can end up in a negative cycle, thinking “this always happens the same way for me!” (and feeding the cycle with our thoughts) without knowing why.

After I made all these connections, I received some inspiration to do an experiment similar to the technique in my post “Beliefs Create Experiences.” When I started I really didn’t think I was actually accomplishing anything meaningful – but then it seemed to take on a life of its own, with things happening that I wasn’t deliberately causing .

I got into a relaxed meditative state, and asked to speak to the aspect of myself that had just been through the first grade incident. Adult-me basically took the position that the adult at the time should have – explained the missing math step, offered some comfort, explained that sometimes adults say things without thinking, but the teacher was wrong to say what she said. At first I felt a bit silly, like I was scripting both sides of the conversation, but then it sort of took on a life of its own. At the end, it felt right to hug mini-me, but when I did that, he absorbed into me with an almost physical whooshing sensation that made me gasp. Whoa.

Once I started using this technique with increasing frequency several things happened. The cycles I’m hoping to break do indeed stay broken; the incidents stop repeating. Additionally, once I’d address one incident, lots of others started rushing into my awareness; it was as if all these past aspects were jumping up and down at the prospect of being addressed. Also, I’ve heard and read of others having literal encounters with future probable selves. While I haven’t experienced this quite so directly myself, I have noticed that when I’m doing this exercise frequently, lots of insight and occasional feelings of comfort and encouragement seem to flood into my awareness out of nowhere, and I can only wonder if that’s where it’s coming from – future probable selves correcting mistakes and sending the results of life lessons backward so they can be learned in the most fun and efficient way possible, as opposed to playing out The Hard Way. In any case, this technique has been a huge boost to my development; try it out and tell me how it goes! :)

–Palehorse

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Beliefs Create Experiences

A lot of personal development material urges you to use their method or product to “change your life.” Today I’m going to let you in on a method I’ve gotten more use out of than any other, but I’m going to urge you not to use it unless you really want to generate genuine, rapid change. In my next several posts I’ll let you in on all the ways I’ve been able to use this method to effect rapid significant changes in my consciousness, and thus change my experience to reflect more of what I wanted.

Most people take it for granted that their beliefs are shaped by their experience. I’m here to say that while our beliefs may be reinforced by our experiences, the truth is that our experience is largely created by our beliefs.  Our beliefs influence our perceptions, the way we interact with others; they even reflect themselves outward and attract experiences to match.  As a general rule, when our beliefs about the world and especially ourselves are based in love, we’re confident, secure and we tend to attract better people and situations. When our beliefs are based in fear, and go unchallenged, they cause us to limit ourselves, and attract people and situations that reinforce those fears.

Once I figured this out, and started putting that knowledge to use, I began noticing some pretty dramatic changes. I used to have an extremely negative self-image, until I realized that what I was continually telling myself about myself was directly reflecting back at me in the form of negative experiences; a vicious cycle. At that point I made it my goal that I would not allow myself to think anything but the best of myself. For instance whereas before, in social situations I may have been plagued by thoughts like “why would this person want to talk to me, anyway?”, now I would deliberately think “why wouldn’t this person want to know me? I’m pretty damn awesome to have around!” It’s not that I developed an egotistical view of myself – as a wise sailor man once said, “I yam what I yam,” no more and no less. I simply realized beliefs are powerful creative tools, so I might as well hold the ones that reflect the reality I’d like to live in.

Without really changing anything else about myself, my appearance, outward approach, etc. – suddenly I was getting a lot more positive attention from other people, (including female people, I was pleased to note), and it was like they were going out of their way to know and spend time with me. Pretty nifty trick, that. ;)

At this point you may be feeling some internal conflict just like I was when I first started wrestling with this concept. To be sure, beliefs are a touchy subject, and especially challenging core beliefs can be pretty scary for most people; I’m no exception. But consider this: a belief, by definition, is something either subjective or unproven. If you’re holding a belief in something unproven, AND it’s causing you to limit your potential… then what good is it to you, really? You may also be doubting that it’s possible to simply chose to change your beliefs, but it most certainly is. Here’s the method I’ve developed to change a false, outdated or limiting belief directly, at its root.

First you’ll want to do some initial preparation in order to identify the belief you’d like to change, and figure out what, if anything, to put in its place. Identify areas of your life that could use some work, and usually it’s not difficult to start making connections to surrounding beliefs about that issue. If it’s money, then what are your beliefs about money and your relationship with it? If it’s social, what beliefs about yourself are making it difficult to reach out to people, or pushing people away? If it’s relationships, what beliefs might be holding you back from attracting a relationship you want, or even from ending one that no longer benefits you?

Next, if you’ll be inputting a different belief, you’re going to want to figure out the belief and its wording before you start the exercise. Wording is important, because the subconscious takes everything very literally. I suggest making an affirmative statement, using “I am” if possible, since you’re redefining your identity here. Having gotten through the preliminaries, you’re now ready to begin the exercise.

–Get into a relaxed state. If you know how to meditate, all the better, but a few minutes of progressive relaxation and slow, deep breathing with eyes closed will be fine.

–Ask to speak to the aspect of yourself that holds the belief you’d like to change.

–Begin a dialogue with this aspect as if it was a separate person. Try to gain some insight on why it holds the belief in question.  This might feel awkward initially, like you’re just imagining two sides of a conversation (which you are) but it will start to feel more natural as you get absorbed in the exercise.

–Thank it for holding this belief for you; after all, at one time you took on this belief because you felt that it benefited you in some way, but now you’ve realized it doesn’t, and your goal is to get all aspects of yourself “on the same team.”

–Firmly state your intention for the aspect to let go of the former belief. At this point I usually feel a sensation of release; you may or may not. If not, no worries; it won’t be any less effective.

–Now, ask the aspect to open itself to the new belief that you want it to hold. State this belief, and then have the aspect repeat it.

–Thank it again for its service and say goodbye. If you’ve gotten really absorbed in the exercise you’re probably in some level of light trance by now, so gently bring yourself back to regular waking consciousness before you stand up.

After doing this exercise it’s normal to feel a bit disoriented and even “lost” for a few days afterward, especially if you’ve addressed a deeply held, core belief. Our beliefs are usually attached to lots of other beliefs, like a web, and this will cause quite a bit of internal rearranging.  Most likely, it will turn up further beliefs with which you’ll want to go through the process again.  The aftermath can be uncomfortable, sometimes even painful, but considering what is to be gained, in all my experience I’ve never regretted doing this work.  A bit of caution though — gradually changing your beliefs, as it usually happens, will produce gradual change in your experience. This method produces rapid change in your internal programming, and can bring about correspondingly rapid and unpredictable changes in your circumstances.  Sometimes explosively so. Change can be difficult, but in my experience, any change that comes from replacing fear-programming with love, is always for the best.  Then again, I hold nothing as being too sacred to go unchallenged, and I’ve always been one to take on a whole lot at once, and then deal with the fallout later. The wisdom of this approach could be debated, but well, one meaning of my online name “Palehorse Redivivus” is “eternal transition,” and there’s a reason for that.

In my next post I’ll go into some of my observations on how this all works and why, as well as more about what you can expect from it.

–Palehorse

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Energy Cords: Working With Them For Emotional Freedom


Have you ever found it difficult to regain your emotional freedom long after the end of a relationship, or a painful incident? Do you find that you feel especially drained after interacting with certain people? Have you ever sensed the presence of a loved one even though they were miles away? These are all examples of experiences involving energetic cords. This article explores what they are, and provides four very effective ways they can be used to directly influence the course of a relationship.

What are cords?

An energetic cord is a structure through which energy and information are exchanged. When we interact with others, these attachments are created between both parties, especially when the interaction is emotionally charged, or the relationship is long term. They operate regardless of distance and can persist long after a relationship has ended. When the energy flowing through a cord is positive and balanced a relationship is probably healthy; however when it is only flowing in one direction, or what is going through it is negative, the result is emotional turmoil. As these cords can play such a significant role in our lives for better or worse, learning how to work with them directly puts us a step ahead of the game. One of the most important things to consider when doing this work is that intent is much more important than technique. Don’t worry about doing these exercises “right”, having a hard time visualizing, or spend time worrying about whether what you did was effective. Simply holding the strong, focused intent that the cord will be affected in the way you’re shooting for and your efforts will be effective regardless of how you go about it. The techniques here should be considered a jumping off point for experimenting and developing your own style of going about things. Before performing any of these actions on a cord I recommend getting into a relaxed, focused state. If you know how to meditate, do so; otherwise anything you can do to relax and quiet your mind is fine.

Cutting

This is probably the most commonly known way to address an unhealthy attachment. Cords should be cut in cases where any further contact with the other person, on any level, would be unhealthy. Simply see and feel yourself holding the cord mentally, and then forming whatever cutting tool is most comfortable for you to work with – a knife, a sword, or even a pair of scissors. I also burn my end of the connection to cauterize it, as a way of reaffirming that I don’t want the connection to reform. However, you may find it necessary to do this exercise more than once, especially if you still have to interact with the person, or find it difficult to stop thinking about them (read: giving them more of your energy). In my experience this has been a powerful technique for making it much easier to move on after the end of a difficult relationship. In one such instance, nearly a year after a relationship had ended and there had been no further contact, I suddenly found myself getting freshly upset and resentful over some things that had happened as if they were recent, even though I previously thought I had been over it for months. So, I cut cords with this person, and the results were almost immediate. The emotional impact of those events vanished literally overnight, and I was finally in a position to wish this person well and move on once and for all.

Besides unhealthy relationships, situational “threads” can form in any instance where we gave away our personal power, i.e. when someone takes advantage of or otherwise offends us. This can happen in any number of ways ranging from seemingly insignificant everyday annoyances, to major personal violations. One of these threads won’t make much of a difference, but my impression is that they’re like the crapware that can infect your computer. No one little program does much damage, but once you’ve got a ton of them each taking up a small trickle of your resources 24/7, the effect is cumulative and it lags your entire system. To remove these I simply imagine myself gathering them up in a bundle in front of my solar plexus chakra (the energy center between the heart and navel) and cutting through them all at once. The first time I did this I speculate that I must’ve had a ton of them, possibly going back years, because I felt really light, and fantastic mentally, for about three days after.

Clamping

This is a more temporary measure to stop the flow of energy between yourself and the other person when you wish to do so without actually ending the relationship. This can be useful if there’s been a falling out, and you need some time to sort your feelings out and get your head back together so it can be addressed in a balanced and objective way. To do this I simply imagine myself putting a clamp on our connection and squeezing it closed. I generally put clamps close to my physical body and inside my aura, which I believe helps keep them from being removed until I choose to do so.

While writing this it has occurred to me that this may be a better approach than cutting if you still have to interact with the other individual. A cut connection can still be re-attached under certain circumstances, but based on my experiences I believe that having the cord still intact, but clamped, may prevent a new one from forming in addition to blocking the energy exchange of the old one. More experience is required to test this idea, however.

I came up with the idea to clamp a connection somewhat instinctively, after a painful falling out with a good friend – and found out how effective it was after realizing I had completely forgotten that I had done so for a little over a year. :P Her and I worked out and resolved the conflict soon after it happened, but even though we had forgiven each other, our relationship was much more distant than before. Eventually after not having heard from this person for several months, I remembered the clamp, and removed it. I heard from her the very next day, and our friendship quickly picked up again with the same closeness as it had before the original conflict.

Filtering

This is even more temporary than clamping, and is more suited to controlling what kind of energy is coming through a connection. If a relationship is generally healthy, but for whatever reason you’re being negatively affected by the other person’s energy due to present circumstances, you can filter out the negativity but keep the good stuff coming through. This can be as simple as stuffing some cotton into your end of the cord (or, in my case, using a coffee filter and a rubber band :P ), or as complex as constructing a filter programmed to only accept positive energy. A one-way filter can also be useful during times when the other person is going through a rough period, and you want to continue supporting them without taking on a negative mental state yourself.

So far the concepts we’ve explored have mostly related to protecting ourselves against the unhealthy effects cords can have, but there are positive and even fun things that can be done with them too. For example, if there is someone you’d like to get back in touch with but don’t have any way to contact them, it may be possible to re-establish contact by “nudging” them through the old connection. To attempt this, just give the cord a few tugs, and send some loving or otherwise positive energy through it, and forget about it. At the very least I believe this will get the person thinking about you, and there’s a possibility that you might get a phone call or a chance encounter at some point afterward. Note that the way things play out depends on a lot of factors, such as the other person’s willingness to get in touch with you, and whether or not both of your circumstances make it possible or advisable.

The first time I tried this, I did so not really thinking I was accomplishing anything – though I wonder if that enabled a degree of detachment from the outcome, making it more effective. I found myself thinking of an old friend I hadn’t talked to for about six years, so I reached for the connection (that may or may not have still existed as far as I knew) sent some love through and tugged on it. I forgot I had done this until the next day, when I got a message from my mom saying she had randomly run into said friend, who gave her a number and asked to have me get in touch. Suddenly remembering the cord-tugging of the day before, I picked my jaw up off the floor and gave my friend a call.

By now, if the idea of cording is new to you, you’ve probably got any number of past situations running through your head where these cords may have been created, if you’re anything like I was when I first discovered the concept. If you’re already familiar with them, perhaps I’ve presented you with a few new ideas to work and experiment with. Whatever the case may be, I hope I’ve given you a few new tools with which to improve your relationships and consciously direct your energy in a more balanced and focused way.

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Overcoming Attention Deficit Disorder: Four Powerful Techniques


Several years ago I discovered, mostly accidentally, that I have Attention Deficit Disorder, or ADD. Before then, I hadn’t known much about ADD itself, and hadn’t thought that the term could apply to adults; I just thought it was something that was applied to hyperactive school kids so their parents could drug them into submission. I randomly stumbled on an online test for ADD, and my score was off the charts, so I started doing some more research. What I found was a disconcertingly perfect match for my experience. I happened to mention this to my mom, who told me “oh yeah, I always knew you were a textbook case but you always seemed to do okay so I never pursued it.” In retrospect I’m glad she didn’t after my experience with conventional methods; as a kid I would have been in less of a position to make the judgment call that the medication route was not in my best interest. But now that I had a name to go with the list of problems that I could never quite put my finger on, it gave me something specific to work on in order to bring more balance and productivity into my life. After doing some research, my initial gameplan was to go on prescription drugs in the short term, just to get an idea of the mental state I was shooting for, so I could then learn to duplicate it on my own.

Conventional Methods


My experience with the neurologist and prescription medication left a bad taste in my mouth. First I found it a bit unnerving that there is apparently no official screening for ADD; rather the medical approach was “take these pills and see what happens; if they help then there ya go.” When I told her what I planned on doing, using the medication in the short-term and then training myself to duplicate that state of mind, she insisted that this was impossible and couldn’t happen. Her reasoning was that this was a chemical issue that required a chemical solution, and brain chemistry can’t be altered any other way. I already knew from experience that this was false for a lot of reasons. But I could clearly see the futility in arguing my point, and so I thanked her for the prescription and left. Fast forward about another year or so, and after getting the ADD well under control without drugs, I was half tempted to make another appointment with the neurologist just to go in and say “nyah!” But I suppose that would’ve been rather egoic of me. ;) And I suppose I’m getting ahead of myself…

My experience with the meds themselves, specifically Adderall, was not good at all. I went through three cycles of adjusting the dosage and waiting for it to level out. I didn’t find it to be making much of a difference as far as my focus was concerned, and waiting for it to level out meant going without a lot of sleep for several nights each time. Finally she set my dose too high, and after several days the jitters and sleeplessness weren’t going away, and were starting to make it difficult to function normally at work and school. At this point I was completely dissatisfied with the conventional approach and rather suspicious of the effect this was all having on my body and health, so I decided to give up on the medication and continue trying to find solutions for this on my own.* I then set to work searching for and experimenting with anything I could possibly find that might make a difference. The following are all the methods I discovered over roughly the next year, that I found most helpful.

Grounding and Centering

Grounding and centering are practices that anyone can learn to do easily. When I discovered the concept, it provided an almost immediate reduction of my ADD symptoms – the internal “noise” and scattered-ness settled down noticeably and stayed that way for quite a while. Grounding works on the premise that your system is moving more energy than it can comfortably handle, especially in the crown and brow energy centers of the head. So you ground some of it out, which relieves your system and probably your brain. :P Centering is good to do after grounding, as it rebalances and centers your energy for more focused and efficient use.There are many different ways to ground, but form and technique aren’t necessarily as important as the intent to push excess energy down out of yourself and into the earth. The following is the easiest method I know of that I use myself.

–Sit down and get comfortable, bare feet on the floor.
–Close your eyes and if you have a relaxation technique, use it. Otherwise, focusing on your breathing for ten breaths is fine.
–See and/or feel (whatever way you’re most comfortable processing information) roots, like tree roots, growing out of your base chakra (located near the base of the spine / genital area), down your legs and out through you feet, deep into the earth.
–Intend for any excess energy to be pushed out through your roots and into the earth. Again, do this in whatever way you’re most comforable – visualizing it, feeling it, even “grabbing” any scattered or overloaded feelings and pushing them out.
–It is sometimes recommended to do the same process upward; extending roots up through the crown of your head, into the air, for even more of a sense of balance. I sometimes do this, sometimes not, but it does seem to increase the overall grounding effect.
–Pull these roots back into yourself.Some final words on grounding – this is the ideal “full” routine, but really, grounding can be done anywhere at any time you feel you need to, without the relaxation technique, even with eyes open.

After grounding, you’re going to want to center yourself. To center, again you take some time to relax and quiet your mind. Take a long, slow, deep breath. On the inhale, you feel all your energy pulling from your limbs and body, into a spinning circle of light in your center. On the exhale, intend and feel that the ball spreads back outward through you again.

Stones and Crystals

Later on in my pursuits I asked a very knowledgeable friend if she thought there was anything to the idea that stones have energetic properties that can affect us in various ways. Her answer was that they absolutely do, and that people should be wearing their birthstones, among others. I was intrigued, so I looked up some information on what properties mine (amethyst) was supposed to have. What I found read like a checklist of the issues I was having. An excerpt from The Crystal Bible: Amethyst is extremely beneficial to the mind, calming or stimulating as appropriate. … Mentally, it helps you feel less scattered, more focused and in control of your faculties. It enhances the assimilation of new ideas and connects cause with effect. … It calms and synthesizes, and aids the transmission of neural signals through the brain. It is helpful where insomnia is caused by an overactive mind… enhances memory and improves motivation, making you more able to set realistic goals.”

So I got myself some amethyst and began wearing it all the time. I didn’t actually notice any difference right away, but I’m also a lot more sensitive to energy now than I was when I started investigating stones a few years ago. Now though, I notice a major difference if I don’t have it on. Before long I’ll start feeling very scattered and overloaded, but then when I realize it’s missing and put it back on, I can feel the change back to a more calm and focused mental state within seconds. At this point Gehenna, who is also very ADD, chimes in that ametrine (a stone that combines amethyst and citrine) has made the biggest difference for her, and she did notice a major difference immediately when she put it on. In addition, there are stones that help with grounding; smoky quartz is noted for this, for example. My favorite is tiger iron, which combines hematite, red jasper and tiger eye. For these and other reasons I’m now a strong advocate of using stones as a tool in one’s development, and the best book I’ve found on the subject is The Crystal Bible.

At this point I’d like to point out that grounding, centering and crystals are risk-free methods that can easily be tried with young children who are struggling with symptoms of ADD. Any child can be taught how to “pretend you’re a tree, and put your roots into the ground.” In my experience kids are also very attracted to stones and crystals, and most would probably love to “wear a special one to help them feel good.” I haven’t tried these methods with any young kids myself, but I’m very curious to know how that might work out, so if anyone tries it, let me know. :)

Self-Hypnosis

Hypnosis is simply the practice of relaxing into a state where the subconscious mind is receptive enough to take in suggestions directly. My experience with self-hypnosis was productive for two reasons – it’s great for getting into a light trance relatively easily in order to improve meditation, and it’s also good for breaking negative patterns associated with ADD (lack of focus, procrastination, etc) and implanting suggestions into the subconscious that reflect the changes I wanted. My favorite book on the subject is Instant Self-Hypnosis – it allows you to hypnotize yourself simply by reading scripts out loud, and I can vouch for the fact that it works quite well. I find self-hypnosis to be good for loosening up a lot of the resistance to change that you get when trying to overcome any long term issue, but it should be considered a supplemental tool that has to be backed up by action in order to reinforce those desired patterns.

Meditation

Regular meditation has many well documented benefits, and is known to improve concentration and focus. The effect is cumulative, and if practiced long enough you’ll start noticing positive changes in your mental state, and ability to have more control over it, even when not meditating. While telling someone who has problems with concentration and focus to quiet their mind for extended periods might sound like an exercise in pure masochism, there are ways to work around the condition in order to use meditation as a valuable tool for improvement. Is it difficult? Does it take patience and willpower? Yes, yes and yes. But if you’ve read this far already, I figure chances are you’ve got the drive and dedication to keep going until you start noticing real improvement. My approach to this was mostly by trial and error, and took shape as I went along; now I can produce a more systematic approach here based on what worked well.

In order to meditate effectively it’s important to first rid your body of as much tension as possible. I recommend the technique for progressive relaxation found here. This preliminary should not be overlooked; holding too much tension will soon make the body uncomfortable and increase the tendency to get restless.The best way to meditate is in a comfortable chair, in loose-fitting clothes, with no shoes. I don’t recommend lying down, or meditating in bed. When we get in bed we’re conditioned to fall asleep, and that’s likely what will happen. To start with, I recommend focusing on your breathing; simply observe the breath going in and out of your body, and try to hold your mind clear of all other thought. If your mind starts to wander (and it will) once you realize it, simply release the thoughts and gently bring it back to your breathing.The most important factor for me in becoming proficient in meditation was to take it in small increments. Trying to go for too long at once, especially for someone who has trouble focusing to begin with, is just a recipe for frustration and burn-out. Thus, if you can hold your mind clear for fifteen seconds to start, consider it a victory! Allow yourself to feel good about it, and move up to the next increment. Ideally, you’ll want some sort of timer that can be programmed to make a soft noise at predetermined intervals, that you can gradually increase. The most useful thing I found was the Brainwave Generator software that comes with the book Mastering Astral Projection. It’s designed to put your mind in a meditative state to begin with, but also comes with several presets that you can program to play a soft tone at intervals that start with fifteen seconds and gradually increase to three minutes. I’m currently trying to find a reliable method of achieving the same result for someone who’s not necessarily interested in astral projection, but so far Brainwave Generator is the best I’ve found. The presets from Mastering Astral Projection are available in the BWGen Preset Library.

Final Thoughts

At this point it should be said that learning to successfully manage ADD should be considered a process, and there will always be room for improvement. That said, with the combination of all the methods I’ve discussed as well as a good amount of stubbornness, I’m very happy to say that I have reached my goal of training my mind to be clear and focused when I need it to be. I now control my ADD rather than allowing it to control me, and I am confident that anyone with sufficient determination can use these techniques to– HEY A SQUIRREL!!! Ahem. :P

*Disclaimer: Always consult your doctor before adjusting or discontinuing any medication.

–Palehorse

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